Have you been seeing #Tradwife on Instagram and wondering what it is all about? Tradwife is a short term used to describe Traditional wives. A quick search of the hashtag on Instagram turns up images of women baking, cleaning, snuggling with kids, and enjoying an afternoon cup of tea.
Before we get into the topic of TradWives, I would like to say being a Tradwife isn’t for every woman, nor do I think every woman should be a Tradwife. But there are women who are interested in embracing domesticity, and if you are here reading my blog aspects of being a Tradwife may appeal to you, which is why I am diving into the world of the Tradwife today.
The Tradwife Mrs Alena Kate Petitt
Alena Petitt, a well-known British author and lifestyle blogger, has become the face of the “Tradwife” movement. Mrs. Petitt writes about etiquette, feminine lifestyle, marriage, motherhood, homemaking, and traditional values on her website the Darling Academy. In her first book, Ladies Like Us Mrs Petitt shares her story of her past and how she made the choice to move forward and live her life with style, dignity and class.
What is a Tradwife?
Like I said, there is some overlap between the Vintage Housewife and the Tradwife. The interest in being a Traditional Wife seems to speak to women who want to get back to simpler times, and take pleasure in traditional domestics femininity, and wifehood.
In a nutshell, a Tradwife devotes herself to her marriage, household and family, and pursues old-fashioned homemaking skills such as cooking, baking, sewing, and household management. While the hashtag is new, women have been doing this for centuries. But what seems to have caught the attention of mainstream media, is Mrs. Pettit’s openness about being submissive to her husband, and letting him have the head of household role. You can find her interview with BBC titled ‘Submitting to my husband like it’s 1959‘ below:
I am not a passive person, but personally, I too have chosen to fall into a more submissive role within my marriage, which is why I instantly started following Mrs Petitt when I ran across her Instagram profile. Marital submission is not something that is easily understood by many people, and I think that’s the reason it isn’t talked much about. I found it refreshing to find a kindred spirit on the internet.
Of course, this return to traditional values has become somewhat of a controversial subject, and critics have tried to associate the #tradwife with antifeminism, Neonazism, and the Far Right. But I have found women don’t usually share their homemaking endeavors on social media for the purpose of social, or political reform as critics of Tradwives will have you believe.
Housewives have long been sharing their thoughts, days, and routines on social media as a way to connect socially. Back in 2017 I wrote a post called Housewife Youtubers you should be following. I wrote that post because I know being a housewife can be an isolating experience. The benefits of inviting like-minded ladies into your day through hashtags, videos, instagram posts and blogs can be incredibly encouraging, inspirational, and supportive. Your online space can become a supportive space which can encourage you to grow and thrive.
Take what you need, leave the rest
Once while talking with my best friend and I asked her “Why is it housekeeping comes so naturally to some, and for others like myself is a mystery?” See, for years I struggled to keep house. Early in my marriage, it was a breeze, with just my husband and myself in a tiny house, no problem! But a few years down the road add three kids in the mix, a full-time farm, sports, a much larger farmhouse with very little storage and I was lost at sea.
She said something so simple it was genius.
Her answer was: “No one ever taught us to clean“.
For a moment I thought about this, cleaning is simple, do you really need someone to teach you how to clean and manage your home?
But she was right, for us, the passing down of domestic customs and routines was skipped. And if it was for you also, there is a lot to learn from online homemakers.
If you are interested in learning more about the routine and ritual of keeping house following Traditional Wife bloggers and vloggers can be a great way to learn more about daily, weekly & monthly tasks.
Whether you consider yourself a Tradwife, a Vintage Housewife wannabe, or just enjoy homemaking. This is a 100% judgment-free zone. I am not here to make you feel bad about your choices, or what you need to do to survive. I am here to cheer you on, and help support you in your journey to create a home life you love, whether you work full time, part time, or stay at home. I want to empower you, wherever you are in life, to build a home that the gives you joy, and is a haven for your family. Whether here, on social media, or in real life, I encourage you to take what you need from the Homemaking community and leave the rest.
If you are interested in the Tradwife Lifestyle these posts may interest you: